When I turned fifty years old, I looked in the mirror. I did not like who I saw. It was not the slow fine lines that were starting to show or the slivers of gray hair that bothered me.
It was not even the fact that fifty years had passed so quickly.
Rather, it was a feeling that something was missing. The sparkle in my eyes had faded. There seemed to be nothing particularly exciting or memorable about who I was. I saw an average middle-aged woman looking back at me.
The sense of lacking can happen at any age. In fact, age has little to do with it than mindset or potential. You have no control over your age, and most of us are never happy with whatever age we are!
In fact, age has little to do with it than mindset or potential. You have no control over your age, and most of us are never happy with whatever age we are!
The only thing in this equation over which you have control is mindset and potential. If we lock it up, push it aside, or bury it too far deep within, we can no longer recognize it, even when it so desperately wants to flow. We push it back over and again until it has no chance to exit.
It has no chance, that is unless we recognize that we have lost the bright shine in our eyes, glazed over by an inaccurate belief that there is no opportunity left.
Fifty years old is a milestone. It was four years ago for me, and the best part about it is that I embraced it. It was the only time in my life when I finally decided to take action.
I was like many women, a mother of four, married for years, and a professional. It sounds like a full life, so why did it not feel full?
The reason is that I was not following my calling. I was not creating the life I really wanted. Motherhood and wifehood were great, but I was so much more.
I began to make changes. There is so much that you can do to create a better you. It takes just a little effort and some decisions.
Other than beginning my professional writing career with a magazine and a blog around this time, I also began to grow out my short hair, wear better makeup, and seek a better sense of fashion.
Although I always worked out, I began to pull martial arts to the forefront. I knew that so many people were interested in the mystery and magic of martial arts that it could be a great topic for everyone to explore.
Alas, I made progress! Every day I saw subtle changes. I grew my confidence in quiet and patient ways. It is important to remember that everyone is different and their own personal growth is for them to explore and define. That is what I did. I found a niche.
The ordinary 50 year old woman started to take shape into someone considered interesting, and even fascinating! Little did I know that my writing, martial arts, and talents would draw audiences near and far. Everyone, it seemed, needed a fresh positivity perspective, and I had it.
Which all leads me back to you. That sparkle in your eye…is it still there?
Have you forgotten who you really are on the inside, or pushed it aside in order to meet commitments and responsibilities? You do not need to forfeit it. You can be more.
You do not need to forfeit it. You can be more.
Your average life is good but average. If you are not using your talents, you will never become the person you are meant to be. We are all given gifts. To let them languish or vanish into nonexistence is not the right option. Use them. Share them. Become them.
Today, at age 54, I use my age to my benefit. “Look at that awesome martial arts woman kicking into the air!” is how I see myself. My long hair flows softly down my back, my writing pen sits always ready, and I look in the mirror to see a woman who is more vibrant than she has ever been before.
You have the power to excel. It is in your mind. You can change your physical appearance, your heart, and your outlook in one decision.
Put it all into action, and you will see the most amazing, fulfilled person emerge. Best of all, you will like who you see.