I drove through a terrible thunderstorm this morning. The lightning was flashing from all directions and the rain ferociously poured down. On the highway, it was very difficult to see the lines for the lanes, and I found myself gliding in between the lines trying to find my bearing. If I couldn’t see my lanes, I’m sure others could not see theirs.
There were ambulances and police cars trying to mitigate accidents from the weather. Some cars were turned around on the highway, where they had bumped and grinded with a railing. I could not see the exact cause for all of the accidents, but I felt worry start to creep in.
What if someone hits my car in this terrible storm? What if I swerve into someone else’s lane? What if my car slides in a big puddle-mess somewhere? These questions make sense. After all, there is no controlling the weather and its wrath.
Not long after I began to worry, I had to remind myself of something very important, and that is trust. Trusting myself, and trusting that I would complete the commute without anything horrendous happening was what I lacked. When you succumb to negative thoughts and worries, you let go of that which can protect you the most. A positive trust that everything will work out just fine.
Facing any struggle is a lot like facing the thunderstorm that quickly presented itself on my commute. Often, struggles and obstacles show up unexpectedly, or with little warning. The first thing that you want to do is engage yourself with worry. You think this is the right response because it is a natural response.
Remember, how you react is completely up to you. You can program yourself to think that you are stuck in a situation that you cannot control, or you can choose to face the issue head on with a sense of positive trust.
With my windshield wipers frantically swaying, I did my best. When I realized that fear and worry were taking over, I immediately shifted gears, in my mind. I’ve driven through many thunderstorms where I live, in Florida, and never once have I been involved in an accident. History shows that I have always made it to my destination successfully.
Positive trust is something you can administer at any time in your life.
Trust yourself that you will pull through the difficulty, and let the worry disintegrate into the truth that you can do it. You can overcome.
In martial arts, there must be positive trust, or students would never learn anything! Positive trust means that not only do you trust your instructor, you believe that you will learn and progress, as well. The burden is not just on the instructor to teach you, but for you to have a positive attitude and trust of yourself.
When we practice with partners in class, your partner may swing a punch at you so you can learn to defend it. It requires a trust that he will do so with control, and a positive trust within yourself that you will be able respond appropriately.
If you start worrying about the fact that if you respond incorrectly you will get punched in the nose, you will limit your ability to perform to your potential.
In point sparring, there is a level of control between competitors. Each trusts that the other is willing to pull back right before a devastating blow is delivered. Walking into the match, you should positively trust in yourself, that you are capable of scoring.
I will admit. That thunderstorm really made me think about my own perspective on facing struggles. It reminded me that all too often I divert to negative thinking. This shows that positivity is not a natural response, but instead requires some fine-tuning of the mind.
Just as in martial arts, when I have to positively trust that I can learn and be successful, I must have a positive trust in all situations that everything will work out for the best. Neither fear nor worry will help a situation but may hinder it.
The next time you find yourself in a full-blown thunderstorm, or a storm of difficulty in your life, prepare yourself with positive trust.
Rain, Rain, Go Away. Take my worry with you. When you come again another day, I will be ready.