With all of the police brutality, racism, and acts of violence against our fellow Americans in the news today, life can feel heavy.
In this article, I will give you Six Ways on how you can bring peace to yourself and others:
1.) Practice self-love.
This may sound simple, but if it were that easy, we’d all be better at it. Everything starts with self. So, before we can love others, we must first love ourselves. How is this achieved? You can start by identifying positive aspects of yourself, saying them out loud every day, and believing them (affirmations).
Everyone has flaws. So stop focusing on yours. You are more than your shortcomings, inadequacies, or imperfections. In fact, they are what make you, YOU. So embrace them, and move on to focus on all the good that is you. There’s only one you, and you’re flawed to perfection.
2.) Practice loving others.
Once you have learned to love yourself, you can love others. How this looks will depend on you and your relationship with the other person. A good rule of thumb is to treat others the way you want to be treated. For example, do you like compliments? Do you like help with chores and errands? Do you appreciate texts or phone calls from your significant other? Do you simply appreciate the little things like “please” and “thank you?”
You can even do something as small as holding the door open for someone, telling them to have a good day, extending them a smile, or offering to help them with something. These little acts go a long way.
3.) Forgive yourself.
Again, it starts with self. It’s hard to forgive others if you haven’t forgiven yourself. Maybe you told a lie, or turned a blind eye to an event that hurt someone, or broke a promise. Whatever the case, you’re human, thus fallible. You did what you did, because, at that time, it was the best you could do with the knowledge and resources at your disposal.
If there’s something you could have done better, then learn the lessons and apply them the next time. You cannot undo what’s been done, so forgive yourself and move on.
4.) Forgive others.
Once you have learned to forgive yourself, you can forgive others. Is there someone you have been holding a grudge against? Are you ignoring someone who’s been trying to reach you because you’re angry with them? Do you talk bad about someone because they hurt you 20 years ago?
Forgiveness doesn’t let the offender off the hook. It frees you. And if you don’t want to be a prisoner in your own mind, then free yourself by forgiving the person who hurt you. Forgiveness neither implies acceptance nor approval. It means you’re allowing yourself to heal.
5.) Turn to your Higher Power.
There’s something about a Higher Power that is liberating and comforting. Knowing that something greater and all-knowing is in charge means you have nothing to do. Isn’t that great? You have nothing to do!
Trust your Higher Power to be in control of the things you can’t control; set yourself free from being responsible for the outcome of actions and events that are not in your power. Your Higher Power’s got this. Not everything is for you to handle. So, manage what you can, and let go of the rest.
6.) Turn to others.
Sometimes, it seems easier to turn inward and be recluse-like rather than open up to others when we’re in pain. But, sharing our burdens with others can lift the heaviness and make things feel a little more “doable.” Humans are social beings, and we are meant to be a community.
So, lean on your neighbors, friends, family, coworkers, and others. It empowers you and makes them feel good that they helped you. It’s a win-win.
Get started on these tips right away. There’s no better time than the present. We must start loving and forgiving each other now.
And that’s how you start bringing peace to a violent world.