Most of us have found ourselves—at one time or another—in situations where we must decide if fighting for something is worth it. Whether it be our jobs, relationships, or something else, we need to determine when the return on investment isn’t there.
In this article, I highlight some ways you can decide earlier, rather than later, when to walk away.
Intuition: This is probably the best indicator. Pay attention to the soft voice inside you, the “nudge,” or overall feelings that direct you. If something feels “off” or wrong, then take action on it. Some one or some thing is trying to tell you something.
If you have trouble getting in touch with your intuition, then meditate, practice yoga, and/or sit quietly, without external factors influencing you.
External Feedback: Listen to the messaging that comes to you. Whether it’s through friends, family, or other trusted sources, there may be certain messages you need to hear.
Some messages are hard to hear. They can hurt us. But they can also awaken us to the truth. And the truth matters.
Consequences: What are the consequences of your actions? Consequences can be positive or negative. When you do X, what happens? If your actions are causing negative consequences for you, then you may want to try something different.
This includes your happiness. Does X make you happy? Does it bring happiness to those who love you?
When we love others, their happiness is our happiness, so our loved ones are an important consideration.
Context: It’s important to consider the context of your efforts. For example, are your efforts toward gaining custody of your kids? If so, there may be no end point.
Are your efforts toward getting a so-so job? If so, then maybe you’ll want to throw in the towel before you expend too many resources.
Only you can decide where your stopping point is. Pay attention to the above points and apply them. This will assist you in making important decisions.
One thing I caution you against is allowing other people to tell you where your stopping point is. Because if they’re wrong, you will resent them. And if they’re right, then you will have given your power to them to make that important decision for you, thus dis-empowering and ‘crippling’ you for future decision-making.
Know when to walk away. And then own it.