Sometimes it seems like finding a job is a long shot, and a “dream job” an even longer shot. It can feel frustrating, overwhelming, and defeating.
Perhaps you feel additional stress because someone you trusted told you that you needed a four-year degree to get a job, or an MBA degree to get a “good job,” yet, you have been unemployed or underemployed since finishing your degree, and that was two years ago.
Let us reframe this scenario.
What if you are exactly where you are supposed to be right now? What if that volunteer work you are doing is changing someone’s life (particularly your own)? What if being a stay-at-home parent is the most important investment you will ever make, and you only have one chance to make it and that time is now?
What if the middle management job you have allows for balance in your life, and a promotion would be too overwhelming? What if this is it and you have arrived at your final employment destination?
If you have empowered yourself and taken every possible step to land a particular job, and that job still has not been offered to you, it may be time to consider that there is no other place for you to be than exactly where you are.
Maybe an even better job is coming, or maybe you are about to get a big promotion in your current job, or perhaps you are simply not ‘seasoned’ enough to take on that “bigger and better” job. In any case, the timing is off.
There is nothing wrong with looking for a job while you a have a job. (As long as you do not do it while you are at work!) Many people seek promotions and opportunities to gain new skills or hone their existing ones. While doing that, however, pay attention to the important work you are doing in the here-and-now. Be careful that you do not miss out on the present moment and all the beautiful work you are doing to make the kind of difference that only you can do.
Be careful that you do not miss out on the present moment and all the beautiful work you are doing to make the kind of difference that only you can do.
- Is running your own business more important than being present for your children when they take their first steps or say their first words?
- Is becoming a senior executive a bigger achievement than reconciling your failing marriage with the love of your life?
- Is it more important to get promoted and now work late hours, or join your family for dinner each evening?
There are no right or wrong answers to these questions.
These questions are for you to consider that, you are unique and special, and there is only one you in the world. And though it may not be the sexy dream job you are aiming for, you have important work to do, and that work is what you are doing right here, right now.