I believe it was the great Ice Cube that said, “check yourself, before you wreck yourself.”
It sounds really good to the beat of a song but this advice is absolutely critical in real life. The truth of the matter is we all have faults, flaws, and we often need to be forgiven. The good news is a lot of our blemishes are fixable.
How do you break the power of that bad habit? The remedy for this is not a popular one: Self Correction.
Self correction is about using your thought life as a catalyst to make better decisions in familiar circumstances. Im willing to bet you have a bad habit you’ve wanted to break. Left uncontrolled these habits grow and develop as time passes.
It is easier to prevent bad habits than to break them — Ben Franklin
One of my mentors favorite quotes is,”control what you can control and leave the rest to God.” Many are dealing with situations that actually require divine intervention, the ones that don’t must not be allowed to run unfiltered. Is there something that you are doing or thinking that is literally creating extra drama that you don’t need right now? With every day that goes past we get older, but getting better has to be the daily goal. Meeting the demands of this goal requires a written plan, actual working of the plan, and a ton of consistency.
It seems as though we go around the same mountain time and time again. Before you know it, years have went pass and you’re still dealing with the same thing. I can’t explain why we keep making the same mistakes over and over. I guess we could take the easy (yet justified) way out and blame imperfection. The wise thing to do would be to aggressively seize control of the things in your life. This will cut off the power of whatever is hindering you from moving forward. I know its easier READ than done, but you can do it.
- Get in the habit of replacing bad habits with good ones.
This article isn’t calling for perfection but rather the inner instinct to win in life. There is an internal war within each one of us and the side you feed the most will win every time. If I continue to give in to a desire to that will not and has not benefited my life then I halt forward progress. If I halt forward progress, growth stops. To age is inevitable. Growth should be equally constant but it isn’t, it is merely an option.
Since this is the case, there must be a decision made. A serious decision toward positive change is necessary begin analyzing exactly what kind of affect its having on my life. You were meant to grow! Mental, spiritual, physical, and emotional growth.
- Consequences can slow that growth.
Make no mistake about it, you reap what you sow. There are consequences (good and bad) for every act. Would you agree when we are going through rough times we hardly consider if the storms raging in our lives are self made? If you’ve invited something or someone into your life that you later realized is unhealthy, you must correct it. Sometimes your life can depend on it. If you don’t believe me ask those in our prison system.
We must be mentally aware of the consequences of our actions. Begin to regularly stop and ask ourselves it its worth it? How much value do you place in an old habit? When is enough really going to be enough? At what point do we begin to show maturity in certain areas in our lives that may have plagued us since childhood?
- Correct your mistakes with people.
You’ve hurt people before, and you’ve been hurt. If you’ve offended someone, you had the power to frustrate them and you also have the power to set them at ease. I need as much forgiveness as the next man. Which is why it is equally important to extend that same mercy when a person offends us with their words or actions. Taking the higher road is always recommended.
I once heard Dr. Robb Thompson say,”If you correct yourself, God won’t have to correct you.” I don’t know about you but Id much rather right my wrongs than deal with His discipline. You have to have a talk with yourself. I know that may sound crazy but when you’ve been led astray you must begin to convince yourself otherwise. A reprogramming of sorts. A jolt to your self motivation and confidence that you can absolutely conquer man’s greatest enemy, himself.
You owe becoming a person of excellence to everyone in your life. You owe it to yourself.
There aren’t enough examples, go be one!